I've changed a lot over the last couple of years. A move to Seattle, a year long marketing program (I was the student) that didn't work at all for me and actually set me back big time, and a recent decision to finally settle down in one place.
Part of our goal has been to experience ourselves in powerful ways and we have. We have been brave enough to try things that didn't work and still keep going.
Just because something doesn't work out doesn't mean it's wrong. Are you brave enough to try? To feel uncomfortable? To embrace change?
I love my life and it's because I've experienced so many beautiful and challenging things, and I've embraced them all. There is a gift in everything if you are willing to look for it.
We are all changing every day. What's important about change? It takes courage. It takes heart to follow your own path, especially the one that scares you.
Change comes with small persistent focus. Are you focusing on what's great in your life or what sucks? There's always going to be crappy stuff, it's really a matter of how you interpret it and your willingness to embrace it all.
One thing I am absolutely clear about is - the only way to move toward what you want is to accept what was, what is and to take steps toward what's next.
Make acceptance a Life Long Practice.
Your assignment for today -
Today I went for a walk by the water. It was another beautiful day here in Seattle.
As usual there were lots of dogs walking their people.
I noticed one puppy with its brand new family. They were full of smiles, laughter and happiness. I knew the puppy would remain happy and present, and I wondered if the family would...
Could they maintain their sense of wonder for their new family member?
Staying present to the constant gifts in life, (including a new puppy), can be challenging. Here are a cuple of ways to stay present and focused on the coolness of being alive.
Why does this matter? Because you matter, your life matters, your gifts matter!!!
Be centered and present and fully enjoy the magic of being the unique, gifted, amazing you...
Imagine knowing and understanding yourself so well that you get to be who you were born to be, make a bigger difference in the world and feel fulfilled and on purpose. Without a minutes doubt!
What's the truth about you? Knowing your Archetypes gives you confidence, and your confidence is your ~ SUPER POWER!
If you know yourself well, you can create from your heart and live and work from a deeply authentic and meaningful place... and that my friend, makes you magnetic.
You were born with a certain way of seeing things that is innately unique to you.
This is cool. Imagine if we were all the same. How boring!
There are Hero's and Explorers, Creators and Magicians, Revolutionaries and Caregivers. We all have innate characteristics and personalities and it's time to make the most of them.
Think of the Innocents and the Jesters you are surrounded with. Comedians, Movie characters and Family members show us the Archetypes in action.
We are drawn to those who are confident in their body, mind and spirit. We are mesmerized by those who believe whole heartedly in themselves.
Mastering others is strength; Mastering yourself is true power.” -Lao Tzu
Being you means ~
Many of us make choices based on who we are "supposed " to be, how others will perceive us, or are living within the shoulds and have too's. This creates unhappiness and unhealthy compromises.
It's time to start anew! While self knowledge might not be necessary for happiness I'm pretty sure it helps a lot!
There have been many studies done on the power of a daily gratitude journal. The act of focusing on and writing down what you are grateful for helps to improve your
Many highly successful entrepreneurs, including Oprah, keep a gratitude journal.
For years I wrote in my journal almost every night. Then someone read some private entries and I never wrote in it again. Silly me. I love to write. I love to learn about myself. A few months ago I started again. I admit I don't write every night and I am committed.
Focusing on what I'm grateful for all day keeps me in the present moment. It helps me to stay clear and focused and at the end of the day (no matter what), I always tell the universe thank you.
Be Brave - get a beautiful journal and embed into your heart and mind the power of living in gratitude. It takes only a few minutes a day.
Will you liberate yourself today!
I recently listened to a powerful speaker. She told us a beautiful and heart centered story, and how saying the words that follow, liberated her from the trappings of trying to change someone who was unnecessarily dependent, her mother! She said, "There is no one coming to rescue you."
You own your life and no one else's...
She was right. Only you have the power to change your life... To many of us are looking to change others. Instead, look at embracing you, creating your own success and saying what's true for you! If you feel like you want to change someone else - STOP - you cannot do it, it is impossible.
If you're luck you might be able to influence someone, but you must do so without attachment to the outcome. Change is an opportunity, not a requirement.
There are only two guarantee's in life - change and death. Tich Naht Hanh
Be your own hero.Celebrate who you are no matter what.
Even when life isn't exactly what you want it to be, gratitude can change the way you feel and how you are perceived, and consequently what happens in your life.
Studies continue to show us that being grateful makes us feel better and creates more success. Do it now... Say thank you to yourself for living through whatever you have lived through. You are alive, you are amazing, you are lovable, you are worthy. You deserve all the great things of life... Thank you for being you.
If you don't already have one, start a gratitude practice. Start and end the day by thinking about what's great in your life. People, places, things... write it down.
Change yourself and the world around you changes... Happy Freedom You day.
My husband and I watched the movie Draft Day last night. What is it about a football movie that could evoke so much emotion? I laughed and I got teary eyes. I asked Kevin what he thought about this experience. He said it was the way they were fighting for something, overcoming difficulties and working to get to the top.
For me, I thought about the adversity and the diversity, and how in the end they all came together… and with the people that had dedicated themselves to being better, and had passion and heart. There was an uncomfortable willingness to say and do the unacceptable, and to let others be unhappy and disagree with the actions taken. In the end they got something better than what they had originally planned.
I know this was a movie and think about how much of this happens in life.
I personally work with coaches and spiritual teachers. I am not in this alone, thank goodness.
Sometimes I hold myself back for fear of not getting it right or failing. This is often the entrepreneur’s dilemma. My team cheers me on, gives me guidance and opinions, and ultimately helps me be more of me. They also help me be more creative and have more fun.
I want you have fun, to say yes to you and the life you want. I help my clients gain the clarity they need and become part of their team.
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It's spring time... unearthing, changing, action, cleaning and clearing time! It is a time of hope,
renewal and discovery.
What do you want? No really, What Do YOU Want!
Recently I have been working with clients who weren't able to answer this simple question. These beautiful, intelligent and heart centered women couldn't let themselves know that it was ok to say out loud, I want this.
One client said, "No one has ever asked me that before".
The TRUTH is everyone knows what they want!
After about 30 minutes into a vision session we push a little dirt out of the way, we add some nutrients and the flowers start to bloom... and in this safe place they get to know what they want. They leave the call feeling energized, inspired and with the clarity that has eluded them for years.
They hire me, they take action, they prosper, they live their fulfilling, authentic life. (Click Take a chance... today.
Ask yourself right now, What Do I WANT???
Get a sheet of paper and answer the question. Be real, after all this information is for you. Let go of the should's or have to's and let it roll out of you.
Spring is always the time when magic happens in my life. I've been working on a program called The Brave Girls Guide to Thriving in Business. I couldn't be more excited and I'm ready to share it with you.
I've been walking around the house singing Brave Girl, a song I wrote last year. My question to myself was, what do I want to do with this song? For me, I have to listen in the background. I have to patiently let the information rise and I also have to write the information down and do something with it!
Out of this inquiry came the culmination of the coaching work I have been doing since 2009 and this amazing, life altering program will put Entrepreneurs at ease, and take them from stressed to success, facing their fears and getting into action.
How often do you have a desire or an inkling to create something or do something and you doubt yourself, or worse, ignore it?
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Acceptance is one of the key elements to having real clarity, and a life of success. These are some things to ponder that will help you understand acceptance, and why it matters.
1. You need to know where you are now in order to get where you are going, and without ending up in some strange land, like OZ. Before you know it you'll be clicking your heals and trying to get home.
2. Ask yourself:
Think about all the key areas of your life.
Family, relationships, career, health and interests. Oh and what about some fun?
3. Ask yourself:
4. Am I willing to invest my time, energy and money into the things that matter to me, and that will move me toward what I want in business and in life?
Make a decision to be in charge of your life. Not based on your past, not even your future... but today! If you build into your life the things that matter, the things that matter will build the life you want.
Did you know you were born with certain qualities that stay with you and can be seen – no matter what? Did anyone ever say to you, I always feel so great when I’m around you, or I know I can trust you. You think to yourself, what are you talking about, I feel like I’m talking to much today or I’ve made a lot of mistakes so don’t look to me for anything.
Have you ever looked across the room and thought, that person looks interesting, I’d like to get to know them? You’ve never met and yet there is something about them that shines through.
Imagine you are standing in front of 15 people, most of them strangers. You ask what they see. They respond with words you are amazed at. Some of these words you think wow, they really know me and some of the words or sentences make you blush a little. You suspect you’re brilliant or beautiful or wise, but you would never admit it to yourself or anyone else.
I do this kind exercise with groups often and every time I am awed and inspired at what you see in each other. I know that no matter how hard you try to hide or how many crappy things you say to yourself about yourself, your essence will shine through.
To change your life: Take action. Be seen. Get support. Come unglued. Be vulnerable. Speak the truth. Do everything you can to live a full and satisfying life… Wake up while you can, you’ve got plenty of time to be dead!
I always ask about myself first so the group participants understand what I’m talking about. The same answers come every time. Peaceful, passionate, confident, graceful, loving, compassionate, trustworthy, etc, etc. When I first started doing this kind of work with groups, I was nervous, unconfident and scared… and they saw my qualities anyway. Every time people say the same things -no matter what.
This one exercise can change your perspective forever. You were born with certain qualities that can be seen across the universe! Complete strangers can see and tell you your essence without hearing more than one sentence from you.
Embrace your you-ness and live your life with unbridled authenticity. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to hide and no energy at all to be you…so stop hiding, everyone can see you anyway!
My brother called me this week and told me about a call he had listened to that upped his awareness around codependency. Since this is relationship week in our Brilliant Horizons class, it made me think about the kind of conversations I have with my clients around their relationships.
If you have a great relationship based on trust and respect, Yah and congratulations!!! If you are having some challenges in telling the truth in your relationships ~ with respect… read on for some things you can do to support changing your pattern.
One of the biggest challenges we all face is to say what’s true for us – without making others wrong. We live in the box of I’m right, I’m better, I’m smarter & I’m more, and what we’re really saying is:
Co-dependence sounds like this...
I don’t want to upset anyone
I don’t want to be confrontational
I don’t want someone else to suffer because of me
I don’t want to be alone
I don’t want to rescue myself but I do want to rescue you
I really need to be right
I really need to get it right
You are wrong
You are doing it wrong
The story I hear the most often is about not wanting to be responsible for someone else’s pain and suffering.
The truth is, as with everything, it’s really about our own suffering when we hurt someone. But think about this, affairs hurt, gossiping about your partner hurts, staying with your partner until the kids leave hurts. Wouldn’t it be worth telling the truth, your truth, and risk being intimate with someone you love, rather than plotting and planning what the end would look like? Yelling at or judging your kids, being mad at work, complaining and suffering does nothing for anyone.
Perhaps if we all learned to speak the truth without making another wrong, the world would change. I know for a fact… that at least your world would!
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Karen Carey is a life coach and speaker who is devoted to you having the life you don’t think is possible