Expect the unexpected and you will get the unexpected!
How often do you feel the winds of change and as the breeze wafts by, forget to look toward the opportunity?
I love change. So much so that I often long to change location. Recently my husband and I moved to the place we plan on staying. We have moved so many times that my programed brain is saying - where to next! We love it here in Saratoga Springs and don't plan on going anywhere. After thirteen moves in fifteen years, it's a habit thought.
If my mind is preoccupied with the next move it will be especially difficult to listen to the silent wind of my inner being and guidance. All of us can mistake a programmed craving or habit for an inspiration.
An inspiration feels new. If I am committed to staying in one place and I keep entertaining my mind when it says - let's move, I have little space for being present. So I ask myself, what do I want that is connected to living here for a long time?
Are you stuck in a cycle? Are you missing out on the life you are meant to live? What questions do you need to ask yourself?
Change is about forward movement. Going around in circles thinking you're creating something new is something else. Looking forward is awesome. It's also necessary if you want to have a fulfilling and joyous life.
There are three components to change. Your thoughts, emotions and behaviors. If you want positive change you will have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Change is a process and you must be committed to it long term. It could take a day, week, month, year or more.
You didn't get where you are in a minute,
you will not change in a minute!
Get clear on what you want. Not what you think you can have, not some small version of what's possible. What you really want.
Your thoughts trigger your emotions and your emotions trigger your thoughts.
Thoughts: Notice them
Emotions: Feel them
Behaviors: Change them
I'm not saying it's easy. It takes enormous commitment to do and feel the things you haven't done before.
Every change you want is entirely up to you. No one else on this planet can take the discomfort or the joy away from you.
Someone once told me I help people live up to their full potential, more importantly I am committed to living up to my own potential.
You deserve a happy life. If you are not happy, what are you waiting for? Are you ready to live up to your full potential?
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Remember you are loved, you are beautiful, you are amazing! Karen
A couple of years ago when walking in the park, a hawk landed in a tree just above me. I felt the urge and asked, do you have a message for me? I closed my eyes, I listened and I heard - Blue Water Standing Still - Immediately I felt a sense of calm, beauty and the power of being still.
I use these words when my mind is spinning.
I see a beautiful image and I have an immediate sense of peace.
Yes, my mind spins and all to often!
Follow your own path & Listen to your inner being
Start listening today and enjoy the mystery of a life well lived
I've got my share of crappy stories just like you and the world doesn't wait while you're dealing with it.
So you might as well embrace it!
Here are a few tools to help you manage the Chaos of life.
If you worry about hurt feelings or the people in your life being unhappy - make today the day you dare to Say No. Say NOto what you don't want and YES to happiness by taking charge of your life.
It's all an opportunity
Look at everything in your life as an opportunity and don't take it personally. It's not your fault, it's not my fault, it's not their fault. We are all doing our best even when it seems like we could do way better.
Be organized and intentional
Have a clear schedule for yourself. If you are a business entrepreneur like me and you don't have a schedule, your business will most likely fall apart when chaos appears at your doorstep. A number of years ago I had a health crisis and because I had everything in place, my business continued to grow in spite of my circumstances.
Know yourself well
The first thing you need to know is you! What you want, what you like, what you don't like, what's next, what trips you up and how to deal with it.
If it's not working do something different!
Making changes (even little ones) will enable you to -
How are you wired?
Are you a fidgeter like me? Is your tendency to be the kind of still that makes you lazy and unproductive, or maybe you push to the point of exhaustion. Whatever your innate style is, the important thing is to notice and help yourself toward creating focused success.
Since I started my coaching practice in 2009, I have spent a lot of time sitting and it doesn't really suit me. I'm fidgety. So I thought I would create a makeshift standing desk before I buy one, and it's working.
I get to move a bit while still doing my work. I actually feel better too. I have more energy and can concentrate for much longer times. I also use my kneeling chair and the table that's next to me when it's time to sit for a spell.
Part of my - stop fidgeting - practice is to not move for at least five minutes during my morning meditation. I've noticed my stillness has helped me with being less impulsive and I am grateful. It's hard to slow my brain and body down. I'm simply wired that way.
1. Fidgeters: You need to learn to stay focused.
The trick is to keep remembering to practice this practice!
You have to make adjustments in how you do things in order to make the changes you desire.
I've changed a lot over the last couple of years. A move to Seattle, a year long marketing program (I was the student) that didn't work at all for me and actually set me back big time, and a recent decision to finally settle down in one place.
Part of our goal has been to experience ourselves in powerful ways and we have. We have been brave enough to try things that didn't work and still keep going.
Just because something doesn't work out doesn't mean it's wrong. Are you brave enough to try? To feel uncomfortable? To embrace change?
I love my life and it's because I've experienced so many beautiful and challenging things, and I've embraced them all. There is a gift in everything if you are willing to look for it.
We are all changing every day. What's important about change? It takes courage. It takes heart to follow your own path, especially the one that scares you.
Change comes with small persistent focus. Are you focusing on what's great in your life or what sucks? There's always going to be crappy stuff, it's really a matter of how you interpret it and your willingness to embrace it all.
One thing I am absolutely clear about is - the only way to move toward what you want is to accept what was, what is and to take steps toward what's next.
Make acceptance a Life Long Practice.
Your assignment for today -
Today I went for a walk by the water. It was another beautiful day here in Seattle.
As usual there were lots of dogs walking their people.
I noticed one puppy with its brand new family. They were full of smiles, laughter and happiness. I knew the puppy would remain happy and present, and I wondered if the family would...
Could they maintain their sense of wonder for their new family member?
Staying present to the constant gifts in life, (including a new puppy), can be challenging. Here are a cuple of ways to stay present and focused on the coolness of being alive.
Why does this matter? Because you matter, your life matters, your gifts matter!!!
Be centered and present and fully enjoy the magic of being the unique, gifted, amazing you...
Imagine knowing and understanding yourself so well that you get to be who you were born to be, make a bigger difference in the world and feel fulfilled and on purpose. Without a minutes doubt!
What's the truth about you? Knowing your Archetypes gives you confidence, and your confidence is your ~ SUPER POWER!
If you know yourself well, you can create from your heart and live and work from a deeply authentic and meaningful place... and that my friend, makes you magnetic.
You were born with a certain way of seeing things that is innately unique to you.
This is cool. Imagine if we were all the same. How boring!
There are Hero's and Explorers, Creators and Magicians, Revolutionaries and Caregivers. We all have innate characteristics and personalities and it's time to make the most of them.
Think of the Innocents and the Jesters you are surrounded with. Comedians, Movie characters and Family members show us the Archetypes in action.
We are drawn to those who are confident in their body, mind and spirit. We are mesmerized by those who believe whole heartedly in themselves.
Mastering others is strength; Mastering yourself is true power.” -Lao Tzu
Being you means ~
Many of us make choices based on who we are "supposed " to be, how others will perceive us, or are living within the shoulds and have too's. This creates unhappiness and unhealthy compromises.
It's time to start anew! While self knowledge might not be necessary for happiness I'm pretty sure it helps a lot!
There have been many studies done on the power of a daily gratitude journal. The act of focusing on and writing down what you are grateful for helps to improve your
Many highly successful entrepreneurs, including Oprah, keep a gratitude journal.
For years I wrote in my journal almost every night. Then someone read some private entries and I never wrote in it again. Silly me. I love to write. I love to learn about myself. A few months ago I started again. I admit I don't write every night and I am committed.
Focusing on what I'm grateful for all day keeps me in the present moment. It helps me to stay clear and focused and at the end of the day (no matter what), I always tell the universe thank you.
Be Brave - get a beautiful journal and embed into your heart and mind the power of living in gratitude. It takes only a few minutes a day.
Will you liberate yourself today!
I recently listened to a powerful speaker. She told us a beautiful and heart centered story, and how saying the words that follow, liberated her from the trappings of trying to change someone who was unnecessarily dependent, her mother! She said, "There is no one coming to rescue you."
You own your life and no one else's...
She was right. Only you have the power to change your life... To many of us are looking to change others. Instead, look at embracing you, creating your own success and saying what's true for you! If you feel like you want to change someone else - STOP - you cannot do it, it is impossible.
If you're luck you might be able to influence someone, but you must do so without attachment to the outcome. Change is an opportunity, not a requirement.
There are only two guarantee's in life - change and death. Tich Naht Hanh
Be your own hero.Celebrate who you are no matter what.
Even when life isn't exactly what you want it to be, gratitude can change the way you feel and how you are perceived, and consequently what happens in your life.
Studies continue to show us that being grateful makes us feel better and creates more success. Do it now... Say thank you to yourself for living through whatever you have lived through. You are alive, you are amazing, you are lovable, you are worthy. You deserve all the great things of life... Thank you for being you.
If you don't already have one, start a gratitude practice. Start and end the day by thinking about what's great in your life. People, places, things... write it down.
Change yourself and the world around you changes... Happy Freedom You day.
My husband and I watched the movie Draft Day last night. What is it about a football movie that could evoke so much emotion? I laughed and I got teary eyes. I asked Kevin what he thought about this experience. He said it was the way they were fighting for something, overcoming difficulties and working to get to the top.
For me, I thought about the adversity and the diversity, and how in the end they all came together… and with the people that had dedicated themselves to being better, and had passion and heart. There was an uncomfortable willingness to say and do the unacceptable, and to let others be unhappy and disagree with the actions taken. In the end they got something better than what they had originally planned.
I know this was a movie and think about how much of this happens in life.
I personally work with coaches and spiritual teachers. I am not in this alone, thank goodness.
Sometimes I hold myself back for fear of not getting it right or failing. This is often the entrepreneur’s dilemma. My team cheers me on, gives me guidance and opinions, and ultimately helps me be more of me. They also help me be more creative and have more fun.
I want you have fun, to say yes to you and the life you want. I help my clients gain the clarity they need and become part of their team.
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Karen Carey is a life coach and speaker who is devoted to you having the life you don’t think is possible