I've got my share of crappy stories just like you and the world doesn't wait while you're dealing with it.
So you might as well embrace it!
Here are a few tools to help you manage the Chaos of life.
If you worry about hurt feelings or the people in your life being unhappy - make today the day you dare to Say No. Say NOto what you don't want and YES to happiness by taking charge of your life.
It's all an opportunity
Look at everything in your life as an opportunity and don't take it personally. It's not your fault, it's not my fault, it's not their fault. We are all doing our best even when it seems like we could do way better.
Be organized and intentional
Have a clear schedule for yourself. If you are a business entrepreneur like me and you don't have a schedule, your business will most likely fall apart when chaos appears at your doorstep. A number of years ago I had a health crisis and because I had everything in place, my business continued to grow in spite of my circumstances.
Know yourself well
The first thing you need to know is you! What you want, what you like, what you don't like, what's next, what trips you up and how to deal with it.
If it's not working do something different!
Making changes (even little ones) will enable you to -
How are you wired?
Are you a fidgeter like me? Is your tendency to be the kind of still that makes you lazy and unproductive, or maybe you push to the point of exhaustion. Whatever your innate style is, the important thing is to notice and help yourself toward creating focused success.
Since I started my coaching practice in 2009, I have spent a lot of time sitting and it doesn't really suit me. I'm fidgety. So I thought I would create a makeshift standing desk before I buy one, and it's working.
I get to move a bit while still doing my work. I actually feel better too. I have more energy and can concentrate for much longer times. I also use my kneeling chair and the table that's next to me when it's time to sit for a spell.
Part of my - stop fidgeting - practice is to not move for at least five minutes during my morning meditation. I've noticed my stillness has helped me with being less impulsive and I am grateful. It's hard to slow my brain and body down. I'm simply wired that way.
1. Fidgeters: You need to learn to stay focused.
The trick is to keep remembering to practice this practice!
You have to make adjustments in how you do things in order to make the changes you desire.
I've changed a lot over the last couple of years. A move to Seattle, a year long marketing program (I was the student) that didn't work at all for me and actually set me back big time, and a recent decision to finally settle down in one place.
Part of our goal has been to experience ourselves in powerful ways and we have. We have been brave enough to try things that didn't work and still keep going.
Just because something doesn't work out doesn't mean it's wrong. Are you brave enough to try? To feel uncomfortable? To embrace change?
I love my life and it's because I've experienced so many beautiful and challenging things, and I've embraced them all. There is a gift in everything if you are willing to look for it.
We are all changing every day. What's important about change? It takes courage. It takes heart to follow your own path, especially the one that scares you.
Change comes with small persistent focus. Are you focusing on what's great in your life or what sucks? There's always going to be crappy stuff, it's really a matter of how you interpret it and your willingness to embrace it all.
One thing I am absolutely clear about is - the only way to move toward what you want is to accept what was, what is and to take steps toward what's next.
Make acceptance a Life Long Practice.
Your assignment for today -
Today I went for a walk by the water. It was another beautiful day here in Seattle.
As usual there were lots of dogs walking their people.
I noticed one puppy with its brand new family. They were full of smiles, laughter and happiness. I knew the puppy would remain happy and present, and I wondered if the family would...
Could they maintain their sense of wonder for their new family member?
Staying present to the constant gifts in life, (including a new puppy), can be challenging. Here are a cuple of ways to stay present and focused on the coolness of being alive.
Why does this matter? Because you matter, your life matters, your gifts matter!!!
Be centered and present and fully enjoy the magic of being the unique, gifted, amazing you...
Imagine knowing and understanding yourself so well that you get to be who you were born to be, make a bigger difference in the world and feel fulfilled and on purpose. Without a minutes doubt!
What's the truth about you? Knowing your Archetypes gives you confidence, and your confidence is your ~ SUPER POWER!
If you know yourself well, you can create from your heart and live and work from a deeply authentic and meaningful place... and that my friend, makes you magnetic.
You were born with a certain way of seeing things that is innately unique to you.
This is cool. Imagine if we were all the same. How boring!
There are Hero's and Explorers, Creators and Magicians, Revolutionaries and Caregivers. We all have innate characteristics and personalities and it's time to make the most of them.
Think of the Innocents and the Jesters you are surrounded with. Comedians, Movie characters and Family members show us the Archetypes in action.
We are drawn to those who are confident in their body, mind and spirit. We are mesmerized by those who believe whole heartedly in themselves.
Mastering others is strength; Mastering yourself is true power.” -Lao Tzu
Being you means ~
Many of us make choices based on who we are "supposed " to be, how others will perceive us, or are living within the shoulds and have too's. This creates unhappiness and unhealthy compromises.
It's time to start anew! While self knowledge might not be necessary for happiness I'm pretty sure it helps a lot!
There have been many studies done on the power of a daily gratitude journal. The act of focusing on and writing down what you are grateful for helps to improve your
Many highly successful entrepreneurs, including Oprah, keep a gratitude journal.
For years I wrote in my journal almost every night. Then someone read some private entries and I never wrote in it again. Silly me. I love to write. I love to learn about myself. A few months ago I started again. I admit I don't write every night and I am committed.
Focusing on what I'm grateful for all day keeps me in the present moment. It helps me to stay clear and focused and at the end of the day (no matter what), I always tell the universe thank you.
Be Brave - get a beautiful journal and embed into your heart and mind the power of living in gratitude. It takes only a few minutes a day.
Will you liberate yourself today!
I recently listened to a powerful speaker. She told us a beautiful and heart centered story, and how saying the words that follow, liberated her from the trappings of trying to change someone who was unnecessarily dependent, her mother! She said, "There is no one coming to rescue you."
You own your life and no one else's...
She was right. Only you have the power to change your life... To many of us are looking to change others. Instead, look at embracing you, creating your own success and saying what's true for you! If you feel like you want to change someone else - STOP - you cannot do it, it is impossible.
If you're luck you might be able to influence someone, but you must do so without attachment to the outcome. Change is an opportunity, not a requirement.
There are only two guarantee's in life - change and death. Tich Naht Hanh
Be your own hero.Celebrate who you are no matter what.
Even when life isn't exactly what you want it to be, gratitude can change the way you feel and how you are perceived, and consequently what happens in your life.
Studies continue to show us that being grateful makes us feel better and creates more success. Do it now... Say thank you to yourself for living through whatever you have lived through. You are alive, you are amazing, you are lovable, you are worthy. You deserve all the great things of life... Thank you for being you.
If you don't already have one, start a gratitude practice. Start and end the day by thinking about what's great in your life. People, places, things... write it down.
Change yourself and the world around you changes... Happy Freedom You day.
My husband and I watched the movie Draft Day last night. What is it about a football movie that could evoke so much emotion? I laughed and I got teary eyes. I asked Kevin what he thought about this experience. He said it was the way they were fighting for something, overcoming difficulties and working to get to the top.
For me, I thought about the adversity and the diversity, and how in the end they all came together… and with the people that had dedicated themselves to being better, and had passion and heart. There was an uncomfortable willingness to say and do the unacceptable, and to let others be unhappy and disagree with the actions taken. In the end they got something better than what they had originally planned.
I know this was a movie and think about how much of this happens in life.
I personally work with coaches and spiritual teachers. I am not in this alone, thank goodness.
Sometimes I hold myself back for fear of not getting it right or failing. This is often the entrepreneur’s dilemma. My team cheers me on, gives me guidance and opinions, and ultimately helps me be more of me. They also help me be more creative and have more fun.
I want you have fun, to say yes to you and the life you want. I help my clients gain the clarity they need and become part of their team.
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It's spring time... unearthing, changing, action, cleaning and clearing time! It is a time of hope,
renewal and discovery.
What do you want? No really, What Do YOU Want!
Recently I have been working with clients who weren't able to answer this simple question. These beautiful, intelligent and heart centered women couldn't let themselves know that it was ok to say out loud, I want this.
One client said, "No one has ever asked me that before".
The TRUTH is everyone knows what they want!
After about 30 minutes into a vision session we push a little dirt out of the way, we add some nutrients and the flowers start to bloom... and in this safe place they get to know what they want. They leave the call feeling energized, inspired and with the clarity that has eluded them for years.
They hire me, they take action, they prosper, they live their fulfilling, authentic life. (Click Take a chance... today.
Ask yourself right now, What Do I WANT???
Get a sheet of paper and answer the question. Be real, after all this information is for you. Let go of the should's or have to's and let it roll out of you.
Spring is always the time when magic happens in my life. I've been working on a program called The Brave Girls Guide to Thriving in Business. I couldn't be more excited and I'm ready to share it with you.
I've been walking around the house singing Brave Girl, a song I wrote last year. My question to myself was, what do I want to do with this song? For me, I have to listen in the background. I have to patiently let the information rise and I also have to write the information down and do something with it!
Out of this inquiry came the culmination of the coaching work I have been doing since 2009 and this amazing, life altering program will put Entrepreneurs at ease, and take them from stressed to success, facing their fears and getting into action.
How often do you have a desire or an inkling to create something or do something and you doubt yourself, or worse, ignore it?
Permission to thrive!
Coaching is powerful. It has and continues to change my life, and it will change yours too...
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Acceptance is one of the key elements to having real clarity, and a life of success. These are some things to ponder that will help you understand acceptance, and why it matters.
1. You need to know where you are now in order to get where you are going, and without ending up in some strange land, like OZ. Before you know it you'll be clicking your heals and trying to get home.
2. Ask yourself:
Think about all the key areas of your life.
Family, relationships, career, health and interests. Oh and what about some fun?
3. Ask yourself:
4. Am I willing to invest my time, energy and money into the things that matter to me, and that will move me toward what I want in business and in life?
Make a decision to be in charge of your life. Not based on your past, not even your future... but today! If you build into your life the things that matter, the things that matter will build the life you want.
Karen Carey is a life coach and speaker who is devoted to you having the life you don’t think is possible